Romantic relationships are important for our happiness and well-being but it takes work to maintain them. My aim is to help you to understand how to keep your relationship healthy and in good working order.
Disagreements are part of any partnership, but some fighting styles are particularly damaging and the way you communicate with your partner can have a negative effect on the relationship. Research has shown that couples who use destructive behaviour during arguments by shouting, using personal criticism or withdrawing from the discussion, are more likely to break up. Those couples who argue constructively and use positive strategies by listening to their partner’s point of view or by showing they are trying to understand their partners’ feelings are more likely to sustain a healthy loving relationship.
During the initial session we explore the issues that you both see as unhelpful and damaging in your relationship. You then have a single individual session each to enable you to voice your concerns safely without fear of upsetting your partner. We then resume with couple sessions.
I have trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples whose aim is to promote secure and successful relationships between partners. It is a change process that facilitates movement from distress to recovery by transforming negative cycles of interaction into safe emotional connection to create secure, resilient and successful couple relationships. It has a high success rate and is based on the science of emotional and attachment theory as well as humanistic and systemic theories.